Relationship is, without doubt, the basis of life, and successful relationship is the key to happier humanity. Everyone, no matter the age bracket, needs one form of relationship or another. Relationship breeds happiness, companionship, fulfillment, external, internal and eternal joy, therefore, everyone is entitled to and should be allowed to have a healthy relationship. I strongly advise against young teenage relationships, however, where that is in function, and also for relationships of people above that age bracket, the following tips would be a good guide to a healthy relationship.
1) Though you can be in a relationship with anyone of any age bracket and make it an enviable and fun-filled one, it is okay to be in a relationship with someone who (in the case of a lady) is 5 years older than you. The relationship would be full of fun, respect, loyalty, commitment, and care.
2. Ask yourself what you really want. The answer to this question is a sure compass to the destiny of the relationship. It helps guide your minds and focus on attaining a specific goal in the relationship.
3. Have a goal and a purpose. Setting an achievable goal in your relationship takes the relationship further than anticipated. Upon achieving set goals of interest, you'd see that your relationship isn't a boring one and time would fly without you even noticing.
4. Fill it up with activities. Make sure the both of you often come up with ideas that will get you both "busy doing nothing". This will also go a long way in keeping the relationship. Play games and attend fun packed functions either in or outside the home and or environment of abode. The "busy doing nothing" would be "busy doing something" after all.
5. Forbid foul languages, negative thoughts, and fears. Never let pessimism be found amongst you, less, what you fear comes upon you.
6. Say sweet words to each other, dare one another to help each other overcome individual weaknesses and give gifts and award at any feat attained by your partner, and do not forget to make promises and fulfill them.
7. Where you don't want sex in your relationship, never trust yourself or your partner enough to stay in an enclosed or hidden place too long. Never let kisses go more than lip touch if and when you are alone.
8. When a partner is furious and is raising voices, never raise yours too. It's often better to withdraw and say goodbyes than continue in the fight. Tomorrow has a way of sorting it all out.
9. Know when to say "No." and respect your partner's wish. Stop when you are jokingly or seriously told to stop as further efforts may lead to minor or major abuse.
10. Respect your partner's feelings, mood and fears and above all, his/her family members and other relatives.
With these all observed, you sure will make a good couple together. I wish you a fun-filled relationship.
Michael Eziudo Nwachukwu is a teacher, relationship counselor, philanthropist, child rights advocate and strongwilled fighter against child abuse. He writes from Abuja, Nigeria.
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